So we all know the story about Open Relationship Dave. The last we heard, his wife had fucked his best mate. He was still hoping he could fuck me but I wasn’t interested. He was worried about his wife fucking his best mate but once she did it, he then wanted in on the action. It never really processes in your mind actually. That still feels weird to write and it was nearly a year ago!
Anyways the conversation continued after that event and the jist of it was that now that she had fucked her crush, it was likely that they would start to have kids. Dave said that he knew that he wouldn’t be with his wife forever, it’s something they agreed on but that was just something they knew.
I’m sorry what!? You don’t bring children into this world knowing that the mother of your children isn’t forever? That’s not a healthy situation and it really pissed me off. Just not fair on the kids. I mean we all know accidents happen but to marry your wife knowing its not forever and then introduce kids, it didn't really make sense to me. Like what on earth are you thinking? You have just proved your completely delusional as flattered as I am to be your big crush/ hall pass thing.
Now before you think that I think that marriage is the be all and end all. I think marriage nowadays is probably one of the most complicated things. I mean, do you get married knowing that the person you are doing it with is really forever? That if it doesn’t work out, there’s always divorce? I know I’ve just sworn an oath in front of god but I don’t believe in god so it doesn’t matter? I can’t quite get my head round what’s the point in getting married if you’re ok with the divorce part and the money and the heartbreak that comes with it all!? Like why even get married in the first place if those thoughts are going round in your wee pea head?! Society doesn’t really expect people to do it like it once did. There’s not a reward of cash payment like in the old days. Ok not a cash payment but you get me; tax related stuff.
Someone suggested once to me that maybe marriage is after you've bought the house, and done the kids and you're still together 10 years later and still want to be together. The traditions are changing I suppose and I am not quite sure what I want but I guess I am still fairly traditional and it will depend on that partner of mine whenever he decides to show up.
I didn’t share my thoughts with Dave but I was surprised by his thoughts. I asked where his wife was at that moment and no surprises but she was out fucking someone. I said "god she must have fucked the whole country by now, she must have a bucket".
Gasp.
He laughed and agreed.
Another gasp.
He agreed! I asked why he didn’t stand up for his wife when I said it, or was it because he was proud of her? He didn’t know I’d meant it that way and thought that it was uncalled for and told me I must be tired and I should go to bed. That was me told.
I woke up the next day and I was appalled at my own behavior. His wife although she doesn't have values the same as me, had never done anything to hurt me. I didn't really know her and it wasn’t fair what I had said about his wife, it was a horrid thing to say about another female.
“What I said last night was rude and very inappropriate and I’m sorry. I think it’s probably best that we stop messaging.”
And that was it. He unfollowed me on the gram and we kinda parted ways.
I received a message from him every two weeks on a Sunday morning which was usually a Saturday night for him making me think that he only messaged me when she was out fucking someone else but I didn’t respond. I just left it.
He requested to follow me on the gram again but I left it. That man is no good for my headspace and it's as simple as that really. Avoid being placed on a pedestal. It does nothing for you ladies and gentlemen. And try not use a bucket and spade for digging holes, they are often hard to get out of. Ok I'll shut up now.
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